“I’d really love to meet you in real time. Come over to my house.”
It wasn’t even a question. I removed the phone from my ear and stared at it; I wondered if he was thinking straight. You may think my reaction a little weird but this is someone I have never met and only chatted with online a few times. How can he just invite me to his house?
“Hello! Sandra, are you there?”
Mustering all the politeness in me, “Yes Mark, I am. Thank you for your invitation but I graciously decline.”
“But why not now? What’s the big deal?” he retorted
With my phone held firmly to my ear, I did the sign of the cross with my left hand and asked the Holy Spirit to help bridle my tongue in that moment. How do I even begin to explain how inappropriate that invitation was? Of course, I guessed he must not know any better and really didn’t mean to be rude; but I find that very fact sad.
For a second, I considered explaining it to him but changed my mind; the only eventuality I could for-see in that line of conversation was a heated argument that would have ended badly.
“Mark, I’m sorry but I have to go now. Let’s chat later, shall we?”
I managed to end his call graciously. The phone conversation really set me wondering, how does he not even know that his invitation is inappropriate?
There seems to be so much time dedicated to training and grooming the girl child and absolutely none for the male child. Even then, the girl child is mostly taught domestic prowess and subjugation, which doesn’t prove to be effective in nurturing marriages and keeping homes anyway – the rate of divorce in current times speaks for itself.
Today, there are so many ‘situationships’, ‘freindlationships’ and ‘sexlationships’. These are types of relationships that are purely for the sake of sex and/or companionship; and are often times than not, devoid of commitment. In any one of these “-ships”, the lady provides assistance and benefits only a wife ought to give her husband and the same goes for the man.
It then begs the question: if a man ought to enjoy certain things/acts only when he is married but gets to enjoy same before he gets married, why should he commit?
I thought about some of the men I had met recently and how they were a “catch” by the average 21st century girl’s standard but I am no average girl. From where I sat, the world seemed to have lost every sense of propriety and I felt like my own sense of propriety was a weighty rock drowning me into the depth of the sea of indifference.
How does a good, principled and traditional girl find love in a cold, indifferent and chaotic world where men are not held to a standard? How do you find a good man in a sea of men who can’t be bothered to make an extra effort because, “if you don’t play ball, there are many fishes in the river that are even better than you?!” Ouch! I sighed, knowing full well that the struggle is real.