“No pocketing everyone, no pocketing in this hall” a person shouted from the back.
This story was told by a friend of mine about his university days. He went to a notorious university (I won’t mention the name) and he stayed in the university’s most notorious male hostel. According to him, after exams, the students played pornographic films in the hostel’s tv room; only at night when the porters had gone to bed.
My friend went to school before the advent of smart phones and the wide-spread availability of the internet. Pornography was rare and only on the fringes of the society. Few guys had access to porn videos in compact discs or DVDs and would bring it to school for the “boys” to watch at nights after exams.
Once the films started rolling, some of the guys get aroused sexually and to avoid becoming the symbol of jests, they would put their hands in their pocket to mask the protruding frontal of their trousers. At that point, some “nut-case” guys will start shouting, “No pocketing, No pocketing!!!”; meaning, let’s see the guys our porn movie has aroused, take your hands out of your pockets.
This story provides two insights for me on a personal note. Firstly, the internal battles young men encounter as they mature; the desire to explore the sexual unknowns and satisfy the internal urges. A lot of decent people have avoided having this conversations with their young men to ensure that the “street” or friends in hostels won’t be the first to introduce the topic.
If the “no pocketing” stories had been in existence in the early 1990s, imagine what goes on in modern times with the availability of smartphones and the extensive access to the internet; if we are to fully understand the things a lot of young men do in secret, your guess is as good as mine on what we will uncover.
The second insight is something I came to realise many years after hearing the “no pocketing” story. Each time I see a gentleman talking to a beautiful lady, with his hands in his pocket; my mind goes: “Oh! This guy is pocketing”. Without being conscious about it, my subconscious has been biased against guy who are pocketing. There are people who naturally like to have their hands in their pockets whenever they are having conversations with anyone but once I see them with ladies, I assume that they have been sexually aroused.
It took some time and serious soul-searching for me to realise that I have prejudiced a lot of guys based on very innocuous habits. If everyone gets too conscious about mundane things like pocketing, then the real unease will start. Women will be on the lookout while other men might start making jest of fellow men for pocketing.
On a lighter note, I remember seeing an online viral picture of a young man, sandwiched between two beautiful ladies who planted kisses on his cheeks from both sides; even as tight as the ladies were to him, both of the young man’s hands were in his pocket; he was pocketing. The photo has a caption: Can you predict why this guy has his hands in his pockets?