[dropcap]What[/dropcap] percentage of men cheat on their wives? What percentage of women cheat on their husbands? Within the context of marriage, how faithful are the spouses?
Sometime ago, I was with the “boys”, married boys though, and I asked these questions. The unanimous answer I got was [highlight]90-95% [/highlight]cheating level for men and [highlight]25-35%[/highlight] cheating level for women. What do you think? A friend of mine even said that all men cheat lustfully but the 5% who refuse the carry out the actual act are the ones with self-discipline.
Honestly, this is a very controversial topic and tons of books can be written on this single subject. Imagine the topic from an African perspective where women are just beginning to take back the control their destinies through financial liberties. What will a “western” guy do when he is tempted to cheat, knowing fully well that he can lose a lot if caught and his spouse files for divorce on the grounds of cheating? Think about how guys in Asia will react to this topic. What about perspectives based on religious beliefs? Perspectives based on cultural norms and acceptable limits for bigamy in some parts of the world? I bet that anyone who wants to dive deep into this topic can write tons of paper on it.
I have chosen to stay on the shallow side of this topic due to its complexity and the emotions it generates from different people. I will love to read your feedbacks / opinions based on your ethnicity, religion, culture, western values, conservative beliefs, liberal views etc.
This is my take: I believe that about 80% of men cheat on their spouses and the number is 20% for women. My stats come from observing friends, colleagues and people I know. Let’s be honest, it’s not easy for men. For many years, I used to think that I had an abnormal attraction towards the female gender until I had open conversations on the subject with a couple of guys. Don’t forget…” the beautiful ones are not yet born”, William Shakespeare. I wish I could speak for the 80% but I am one of the 20% who does not cheat. Honestly, a man’s battle with Lust is like WWE (World Wrestling Entertainment). If you succumb to Lust, Pornography will set in before Cheating starts. No matter what stage you are, don’t forget that you have got a choice to make.
[dropcap]I [/dropcap]had the chance to discuss with a female friend about her man-crush and the discussion provided an insight into why only 20% of women cheat. I asked my married friend if she fanaticises about having sex with a man-crush and she said No. In her opinion, few women are really seduced by the macho body of a man. She mentioned that the crush stops at likeness and not cheating.
Hmmm, it’s not the same for men. In Proverbs, “There be three things which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not: The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid”. Once your eyes see, it enters into your heart and there, the personal “Royal Rumble” begins. There seem to be a gene in men that automatically generates certain kind of emotions, and I think no man is exempted. I wish I could explain it further; if you are a man, I am sure you know what I am talking about. If you are a woman, ask a guy.
Have you ever been in a room with some guys, even in a corporate environment, and a beautiful lady with certain kind of tantalising body walks past. Initial reaction; most of the eyes including yours, follow the lady; then you force yourself to look away, only to realise that your friends are in another planet. They may not be dreaming of Pluto (sex), assuming they are not sex maniacs, but with the look on their eyes, they have escaped the earth’s crust and are already in outer space. Sometimes, you notice change in disposition and expressions; it’s almost like a football match, players jostling for the ball. Such is the natural feminine force, similar to gravity, that a gentleman has to overcome to stay sane.
So can you change the way you feel about this matter? Nope. You are a man; deal with it. I like being one of the 20%. I also know that my battle with Lust will be a lifetime one and I am determined to win. There is a choice for every man to make: draw the battle line at the level of Lust or succumb to Lust and Cheat. The good thing is that the choice is yours; no one can help you.
Let me know what you think?